{"id":3393,"date":"2014-06-17T12:30:43","date_gmt":"2014-06-17T16:30:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/?p=3393"},"modified":"2014-06-17T12:30:43","modified_gmt":"2014-06-17T16:30:43","slug":"matchmaking-as-it-relates-to-adoption","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/?p=3393","title":{"rendered":"Matchmaking and Adoption"},"content":{"rendered":"

I learned yesterday at work that when Orthodox Jews are \u201cdating\u201d (used loosely as it is more akin to matchmaking<\/em>), they are not allowed to speak to other potential partners. Granted, this could be incorrect as I didn\u2019t grill my friend about it. She was talking about a family member to another friend and mentioned that even though there was another very interesting young lady that he would be a good match with, he is currently committed to seeing if he is a match with another young lady. I asked why he wasn\u2019t allowed to talk to both ladies and she said it just wasn\u2019t done that way.<\/p>\n

This got me to thinking about both \u201cnormal\u201d dating (define that however it makes sense to you<\/em>), job hunting<\/a> and the matching process<\/a> with our future child. There were definitely times when I dated 1-2 guys at a time until I determined which I liked better. OK fine, 2-3. But once I made the decision, I dropped everyone else. It didn\u2019t always work out as I expected, but that\u2019s how life works.<\/p>\n

With jobs, when I applied to one that I [thought I] was perfect for, I would fixate on it. I\u2019d do company research; learn about the employees, culture, upper management, office, local area, and more. All before scheduling an interview sometimes. When I\u2019d apply for multiple jobs at a time, I would do the same for all of them. After all, I wanted to be super prepared to work there.<\/p>\n

\"Not<\/a>As much as we would have loved to be Ballerina<\/a>\u2019s parents, we have not heard anything in over a week since receiving the call from CW that she wanted to put a hold on being adopted at this time. For our peace of mind and hearts, we have moved on.<\/p>\n

No, you didn\u2019t miss the post about it. I didn\u2019t post other than a few lines in my last post<\/a> and with no details. I have been mourning (if you want to call it that<\/i>) the loss of having her be a part of our family as our daughter. There will never be details posted as to the reasons on here or on FB although I might allude to it every so often. The lessons we learned with our first potential match will be carried forth throughout any future matches.<\/p>\n

But back to my earlier point of \u201cdating\u201d one person at a time. With the adoption matching process, it feels strange to request information on several children at a time. We lucked out with how quickly things progressed with Ballerina and how well of a match we were with her. We really did. And even though it didn\u2019t work out, it was still pretty smooth at first. Strange, yes. But we did it. Over the weekend I submitted inquiries on several children from across the country on AdoptUSKids.org<\/a>. Matching when the child isn’t local is different and potentially difficult, but for the right child for our family, we are willing to do whatever it takes… within reason, of course.<\/p>\n

And so begins the next part of our journey as we actively try to find our son or daughter from foster care.<\/p>\n

Wish us luck!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I learned yesterday at work that when Orthodox Jews are \u201cdating\u201d (used loosely as it is more akin to matchmaking), they are not allowed to speak to other potential partners. Granted, this could be incorrect as I didn\u2019t grill my friend about it. She was talking about a family member to another friend and mentioned […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,100,29,59],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3393","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-adoption","category-ballerina","category-foster-adoption","category-my-child"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3393","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3393"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3393\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3393"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3393"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/beccablogs.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3393"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}