Same shirt work on purpose.
Pants are so huge that they’ve been in the donate pile for months.
Sep142016
Becca
Dec032014
It’s Been A While…
Hi my lovely bloggy readers,
I know it’s been really quiet around here for the last 6 weeks 3 months. Yes, I started an update post 6 weeks ago and never finished it.
My life in a nutshell these days…
- Celebrated my 38th birthday!
- Our 4th wedding anniversary!
- Paid off 3 credit cards
- Started a Fiber and Fandoms podcast with my friend Kate – Muggle Yarns!
- Successfully completed my Kickstarter campaign thanks to my 19 truly amazing backers
- Dropped to half time – 20 hours – at my full time job
- Took on 2nd part time job – 25+ hours – back in the development/ fundraising and event planning world at a non-profit
- Half-heartedly searching for children on several nationwide sites – family-match.org – adoptuskids.org
- House hunting like crazy – we lost the cutest little house in North Miami Beach bc we took too long deciding
- Getting over laryngitis that I’ve had for 10 days
Coming up…
- Getting my knitting out – 2 more projects to try to finish this week
- Shipping all my Kickstarter projects out
- Going back to the customers that wanted commissions once this knitting was finished
- House hunting and hopefully moving north and much closer to my jobs. My current commute time is 1.5-2 hours
- Paying down and off all my other debts – goal for total payoff is 3 years
- Still trying to get over and past our failed placement
- Parenting?
But what about parenting? Yeah… no idea.
I still attend the meetings and events, but my whole heart isn’t in it anymore. It’s more about hanging out with my friends than hoping there will be a foster parent there to talk to if her foster kids get TPRd. Husband even commented recently about my no longer showing him kid profiles or telling him about more kids. I’m a little down on the whole subject even though I know I could never be truly happy without being a mother. We have recently spent more time looking for houses than at children.
So, yeah, I’m sorta back, just down. Trying to get my life on track and get back in the mindset of focusing on long term goals.
Sooo…. how are you? What’s been happening in your lives in the last 3 months?
Sep052014
Live on Kickstarter #sheep2skein
No, this isn’t adoption related, but it’s still super exciting! I posted my very first Kickstarter campaign to raise the money to start my knitting business.
And I am beyond excited about it.
I’ve limited all the handknit rewards as I would love love love to get them posted to all the backers by the first week in December for gifts (even gifts to yourself!)
Even if you can’t or don’t want to support it, can you please spread the word?
Sheep2Skein Yarn Shop is Finally Opening. For Real!
Our shorturl for sharing is tiny.cc/sheep2skein
Jul142014
Stagnant
I started writing this post last week and the only thing that’s changed is the last paragraph..
Our search is not going anywhere. In all honesty, I feel a little burned out constantly searching, seeing the same children, and submitting inquiries on them. I ask friends about their fosters and their foster’s siblings. I search nationwide sites. We discussed in vitro and pregnancy again. I… really don’t want to be pregnant. I – we – don’t want an infant. We want a child that can walk and talk and tell us what he or she wants. We want a child that spends his/her days in school learning and socializing with their friends while we are at work.
Sure, the older the foster child, the more likely to be problems from being in the system. We know. We are aware. We are prepared for it.
At least we are prepared in our minds. In reality, we don’t know. Well, I don’t. It’s been over a year since we decided to adopt. I’m exhausted.
There is a lot going on in our non-child lives right now – Husband in school, we are looking for a home to buy, and I am focusing my after-work time on pushing both my knitting and design businesses. My companies have been languishing for years as I focus on other projects. It’s nice to have something to think about constantly now especially since there is no child in our home or lives and we have no idea when there will be one.
Sep162013
And in my 37th Year…
I interrupt this not-so-regularly updated adoption blog to say that in my 37th year (which, BTdubs, starts today) I plan on doing the following things (in no particular order):
- Becoming a mommy to a sweet little child from foster care
- Getting a job worthy of my degree, my experiences, and myself
- Being the best darn wife and mommy I can be
- Learning as many new web and design technologies as I can
- Kicking butt on the technologies I already know
- Being a better person
- Learning to speak up for myself appropriately
- Not letting certain people rule my mind simply bc I am related to them
- See also, growing a bigger pair (sorry for that graphic!)
- Sheep2Skein, push it
- RS Creative Solutions, push it
- Bake more
- Actually make the projects I pin on Pinterest
Apr292013
The Last Two Weeks
In the last 2 weeks since deciding to move forward with the foster-adoption process, I have. . .
- Been in touch several times with the adoption advocate at Our Kids of Miami-Dade County
- Scheduled our Orientation class at which we will schedule our 10-weeks of PRIDE classes (PDF link)
- Joined a gym to ensure I will be around for a very long time for my child(ren)
- Committed to work on my personal problems
- Had breakfast with Steve that turned into brunch as we sat for 3 hours talking to a realtor about buying a home, her connections for jobs at UM and FIU, our lives, her schedule, real estate classes and so much more
- And subsequently, spent hours looking up homes between South Miami and Cutler Bay
- Talked about the process and foster-adoption to loads of people
- Discovered that my 20th high school reunion is next year – ugh!
- Gathered a ton of information about my amazing friends on the kind of parents they are (or want to be) and began forming the picture in my mind about my parenting style
- Got lost in Target in the children’s bedroom aisles – so much pink!
- Met another couple for dinner that I can’t wait to hang out with a lot more
- And. . . just submitted my information to take classes to become a CASA volunteer with the Guardian Ad Litem program
More to come! I’m sort of playing catch up and trying not to spew out so much information at once. I hope all my knowledge – and trust me, I learn more about foster-adoption every day – will be helpful for other folks as well. It will be interesting to see how many folks I’ve educated and that also adopt from foster care. If you’re thinking about it, let me know, OK?
Apr282013
Let’s Start at the Very Beginning
Well hello there!
This has been a big couple of weeks in the Fletcher home. Two weekends ago, we decided that, yes, it’s time to expand our family. With a human child. Or 2. (as opposed to another furbaby…)
As the first post in my newly revised blog into an Adoption Blog, I’m just going to post all the updates I made on my Facebook the past few weeks.
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So there you have it. The facebook updates. Coming up will be my [extremely long] elevator speech about the children, the process, and everything else.
Sep162011
35 Years Young
Source: img1.socwall.com via Natalya on Pinterest
35 will be my year.
My year to get in shape.
Mentally. Physically. Emotionally.
I’ve realized that I shun New Years resolutions, but maybe I should make Birthday resolutions instead. So for this year, I will make my resolutions to be a better person. And not just that, but to be like a duck where problems and meanness rolls right off my back. Oh, and also for looking calm on the surface and paddling like mad under the water.
Mentally I am going to get into a better place. I am going to get a job and use my brain power (and my Masters degree!) fully.
Physically I am going to get fit, to feel better about myself, to look awesome in the bridesmaids dress in March.
Emotionally I need to be that duck and let things roll off my back and out of my head. Honestly, it is my emotional state that needs the most work.
Maybe then, and only then, will we be truly ready to have a family and welcome 2 little ones into our home. A home of our own where we don’t rely on anyone else.
Also, I am going to push AVON as much as I can without being a pain. Yes, I love the stuff. Yes, I use the stuff. But I also know that not everyone does. Oops, I never did make a post about selling. It’ll come eventually as I’m still figuring out my groove with it all.
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